Effective emotion management is the key
to effective social functioning in modern times.
The following tips might prove useful to
you for achieving the desired balance of
emotions :
Enhance self-awareness : Be aware of
your own emotions and feelings. Try to
gain insight into the ‘how’ and ‘why’ of your
feelings.
Appraise the situation objectively : It
has been proposed that emotion is
preceded by evaluation of the event. If the
event is experienced as disturbing, your
sympathetic nervous system is activated
and you feel stressed. If you do not
experience the event as disturbing, then
there is no stress. Hence, it is you who
decides whether to feel sad and anxious
or happy and relaxed.
Do some self-monitoring : This involves
constant or periodic evaluation of your past
accomplishments, emotional and physical
states, real and vicarious experiences. A
positive appraisal would enhance your
faith in yourself and lead to enhanced
feeling of wellness and contentment.
Engage in self-modeling : Be the ideal for
yourself. Repeatedly observe the best parts
of your past performance and use them
as an inspiration and motivation to
perform better in the future.
Perceptual reorganisation and cognitive
restructuring : Try viewing the events
differently and visualise the other side of
the coin. Restructure your thoughts to
enhance positive and reassuring feelings
and eliminate negative thoughts.
Be creative : Find and develop an interest
or a hobby. Engage in an activity that
interests and amuses you.
Develop and nurture good relationships
: Choose your friends carefully. In
the company of happy and cheerful friends
you will feel happy in general.
Have empathy : Try understanding other’s
feelings too. Make your relationships
meaningful and valuable. Seek as well as
provide support mutually.
Participate in community service : Help
yourself by helping others. By doing
hope this encourages you to control u r negative emotions........